Whew – so sorry for the lapse in time between posts folks! I’ve been crazy busy getting ready for the Mardi Gras Fundraiser my business was hosting, the there was a death in the family and to top it all off I was re-creating my branding, launching, my line of sauces and my completely overhauling my business website! Tonight on Family Day in Ontario as well as various other provinces in Canada I thought I would take a breather and write a short note (which turned into a really, really long one) on some of the things in the last month that I have come to realize are just as important to have in your life as some of the biggies. Ok, so I already knew some of these but in my whirlwind month, as trite as it sounds I really have come to realize how important a couple of these are. So here it goes – my top 10.
My Top 10 Important Things – in no particular order.
- To cry or not to cry – I choose cry. Sure there’s the old laugh, out loud (everyone knows this) but just as important – cry out loud – and let someone know you are hurting. A kind word, a pat on the back or a hug can sometimes mean the difference between being completely discouraged and healing and moving forward.
- Work outside the box. Don’t be afraid to look outside the box and look (preferably local), for your solution … I recently came across this when trying to come up with my logo, I had a vision of sorts in my head but the quotes I was getting to action it – and not even exactly what I was looking for were unbelievably expensive – hence I was putting off the decision and getting more and more discouraged. I finally happened to look up at the store front I was parking at and went “Duh” and did the V8 bop to my own head – Lost Anchor Tattoo Parlour – Hello! Instead of trying to convey what I wanted to a graphic artist – this is what Tattooers Do! Walked in and met Ryan Howe artist extraordinaire. Big Love to Ryan – in 10 min he captured exactly what I was looking for and more! If you are looking for some Sailor Jerry Style pinup girl, Rat Fink or monster art – he is your man. (If you are looking for Tiki or other Rat Fink, or Pinstriping – my husbands your man (Jeppa Kustoms – shameless plug lol) … well he’s my man – but I am willing to share 🙂
- Hook up with old friends – its always good just to sit and listen or chat about nothing and laugh – sometimes its the stress reliever you need! They also may offer an outside perspective to something that you never thought of.
- Share your worries with others in alike situations. Same thing as above – sometimes it just helps to chat about it with someone that knows and can emphasize to put things into perspective – ‘nough said.
- Recognize the good in you – and in others write a list of the things that you like about yourself. Sounds weird right? Ok, try this – ask your partner or your close circle of friends (not the other people in line at the supermarket – they may just look at you weird – on the other hand its probably a good way to get through the lineup quicker) – say there are 5 of you that hang out – not necessarily daily – although it could be – each of you write down 5 or 10 characteristics that they admire and like about the other 4 people – including you. One person is allotted to gather responses – I would give them overnight to do it so you don’t get dumb answers, and compile them by person – so Amy sheet would have all the nice things that everyone said about Amy on it, as would Jills, Bobs, Ricks etc…. you don’t have to credit the author – just a list. Share if you care to. Keep it with you somewhere – when you are feeling down you can look at and realize that there are people that care and do admire you. Ok, so I cheated with this – I didn’t actually do this with my friends – back when I worked in the corporate world I worked in a couple of really dysfunctional teams that had to work together. You know the kind – where everyone talks about how little the other team member does, how dumb they are blah, blah – I couldn’t stand working in that environment so asked the manager at the time if I could do this team building exercise with everyone (I got the idea from an old email story that went around a few years back about a solider that had been killed in WW2 (I think) that still had the list in his pocket that the teacher made them do about their classmates in grade 3 or something) – You know what – it worked!! Sometimes just by changing the focus of how you are thinking about someone – allows you some empathy into their situation. A few years later I came aboard as a Manager of a similarly dysfunctional team at another company – you know what – it worked there too! In both instances employees chose to post them on their cubical walls.
- Reach Out (or rather 5B) if you need more help -get it there are lots of options out there – depending on what you need from hypnotherapy, counselling, physiologists, your local pastor or priest, your doctor, help lines or other not for profit groups like Nar-Anon, Grief or Brerevment Counselling etc. Just. Reach. Out.
- Do something for pure fun. Build a snowman with (or without) the kids! Make them into funny characters, toboggan (ok so I live in Canada – and we finally got some snow – can you tell???) Go see or rent a silly movie with someone else that likes the same type thing! I recently went to see One for the Money- based on the Stephaine Plum series by Janet Evanovich – with a friend of mine who also loves the series, that I hadn’t seen in many many (like we figured 1988) years other than on Facebook – we loved it – we may have been the only people laughing (it got bad reviews) but it followed the craziness and fun of the books to a T and we both throughally enjoyed ourselves.
- Plan some down time into your day – you know the old adage “All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy” (OK I have creepy flashes of the Shining in my head now) – schedule a lunch break – a coffee break – a yoga break a- go read damnyouautocorrect.com break (no really do that one it is really funny) and just relax for 15 min – your body will love you for it, and more importantly – in the long run – you will love you for it.
- Do something nice for somebody – without seeking credit – buy the car behind you in the Tim Horton’s line a coffee. Help a stranger carry the groceries to their car. Smile at the clerk that everyone is giving a hard time to at the store, look her/him in the eye and wish them a nice or better day …. and mean it.
- Try something new. Doesn’t have to be sky diving – or roller derby (although that would shake things up I am sure) – it can be as simple as try a new recipe, a new meat, a new veggie, a new route to work, a new restaurant. You never know how something a little different may affect your perspective.